Wouldn't You Like To Find Out?
When you solicit feedback, prepare to be criticized more than praised. That is just how people roll.
Women are more likely to take criticism more personal than men do. Take a comment like, "You're not a team player". A good reply might be, "What is a good team player in your mind"?
Helpful feedback doesn't always come from above
"I let coworkers know upfront that if I seem brusque, it's not because I'm angry, it's just because I don't sugarcoat."