What Do People Think Of You At Work?

Try not to ask vague questions:  

  You'll get vague answers and platitudes that "can just be personal instead of professional.  Ask how you do in your position and seek answers on how you could improve. 

It's Ok To Fish For Compliments

  When you solicit feedback, prepare to be criticized more than praised.  That is just how people roll.

Don't run from the tough stuff

  Women are more likely to take criticism more personal than men do.  Take a comment like, "You're not a team player".  A good reply might be, "What is a good team player in your mind"?

Helpful feedback doesn't always come from above

  "I let coworkers know upfront that if I seem brusque, it's not because I'm angry,  it's just because I don't sugarcoat."