Learn To Trust Others After You Have Been Betrayed

Trust is defined In the following ways:

Letting others know your feelings, emotions and reactions and having the confidence in them to respect you and not take advantage of you.

Sharing your inner feelings and thoughts with others with the belief that they will not spread them indiscriminately.

Placing confidence in others so that they will be supportive and reinforcing of you even if you let  down your mask and show your weaknesses.

Assuming that others will not intentionally hurt or abuse you if you should make an error or a mistake.

The inner sense of acceptance you have of others with whom you are able to share secrets knowing they are safe.

The sense that things are fine, that noting can disrupt the bond between you and the other.

The ability to allow others into your life so that you and they can create a relationship built on an understanding of mutual respect, caring and concern go assist one another in growing and maturing independently.

The glue/cement of relationships that allows you to need others to fulfill yourself.

Opening yourself up to others in regard to your background, problems, concerns and mistakes with the assurance that they will not ostracize you because of these things.

The act of placing yourself in the vulnerable position of relying on others to treat you in a fair, open, honest and respectable way. 

People have difficulty developing trust if they have:

Experienced a great deal of emotional or physical abuse and/or neglect.

Been put down for the way they feel or what they believe.

Have been hurt in the past.

Have been belittled, misunderstood or ignored.

Experienced the loss of a loved one.

Experience a hostile or bitter divorce.

Experienced a great deal of pain at the hands of another.

Low self-esteem. 

People need to develop the following traits, attitudes and beliefs in order to develop trust.

 Hope in the goodness of mankind. 

Faith in the fairness of life.

Belief in the power greater than yourself.

A healing environment.

Taking a risk to be open to others.

Letting go of fear.

Self acceptance.